Parenting After Divorce: Summer Vacation Solutions

Everything changes after a divorce. Some changes are good ones: improved mood due to less frequent conflicts with your partner, feelings of relief. Unfortunately, some changes can feel uncomfortable, especially if you and your ex-partner had children. 

Child custody involves juggling multiple schedules and communication preferences. It can feel overwhelming, especially when it comes to longer breaks. A child’s summer break from school can be one such time. However, clear communication can ensure your summer – and your ex-partner’s summer – goes as smoothly as possible.

Know the Expectations

First, take some time to review your child custody agreement prior to the start of summer break planning. You need to know when you will have your child as well as any extended period where they will be with their other parent. This way, you aren’t making family plans or signing up your child for a day camp while they are not in your custody.

Communicate Clearly

Communication can vary from ex-couple to ex-couple. While some can easily co-parent together, others find it much more difficult to do so. No matter what camp you are in at this moment, it is imperative to find a way to communicate to the best of your ability. Not sure where to start? There’s an app for that (really!). 

Schedule Your Down Time

It’s sad when your child isn’t in your home and it’s okay to feel anxious about extended visits away from your home during the summer. Do yourself a favor now by planning your schedule for when your child is gone. It’s the perfect time to plan a few special dinners with friends, to take a class, or to start training for a 5k race. If you plan it now, you’ll appreciate that scheduled time when summer vacation time approaches.

Talk to Your Kids

Summer break going between two households is hard for your child too. Be sure you are talking to your kids about how they are feeling about things. If you think they are struggling, consider bringing a professional counselor onto your child’s support team.

If you are separated or considering divorce, it is imperative to have your own support team in place, including an experienced family law attorney. Call the team at Gandhi Selim Law to tell us more about your situation; we would be honored to be your advocate during this trying time.